Nelson Leader : April 18th 2013
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Perfect for cremation or burial. • Organic Embalming • Eco Coffins • Biodegradable Urns • Natural Burials 164 Tahunanui Drive, Nelson Phone 546 5700 8 Cambridge Street, Richmond Phone 544 1129 eco friendly funerals Getting kids to bed happily Sleep issue one of the most common Parenting with Brenda Holdaway The most important thing is to set a good bedtime routine and, as with all routines, make sure it is followed every night. One of the topics that came up recently at a parent discussion I was attending was around sleeping, how to get children to sleep and to stay in their own beds throughout the night. There seem to be many parents out there who really battle the bedtime blues and most of the issues are around the same things. This week I thought it appropri- ate to share some ideas around how to work through those issues and to get children to sleep in their own beds all night. The most important thing is to set a good bedtime routine and, as with all routines, make sure it is followed every night. A good rou- tine may be that after dinner there is a bath/shower, then a quiet time where a settling down activity happens, such as a story or quiet game. Thenatasettimeitistimeto head to bed, so cleaning teeth, toilet if appropriate then into bed. If all those things go well then have a set number of stories that you read (one or two) then it is good night. If you follow the same set rou- tine every night your child will learn that this is the process and know what they need to do each night. When you start using a routine, explain to them the process and also the rules, what your expect- ations are -- that they will stay in bed until they go to sleep. You can even talk to them about the consequences of not following the rules, that the door will be shut, or whatever you decide on. When children try to make changes to the routine or have dif- fering demands on you, it becomes very trying, particularly if you have given in to those demands in the past. To have a successful bedtime routine, children need to learn that their demands won t get them any more attention or changes to the way things happen. So when those demands come, such as needing a drink of water, or needing an extra cuddle, then make sure you don t give in to them. This may seem hard but the more that children use those things to avoid what they are really meant to be doing, the more likely they are to continue using them. When your child gets out of bed and they are supposed to stay there, just quietly take them by the hand and put them back in bed. If you start talking to them you are asking them to engage in a conversation which gives them another excuse to talk to you. So the best trick is to say nothing. If necessary when you put them back to bed, you can shut the door or hold the door shut until they realise that they may as well just stay in bed. If there are tears and scream- ing, you can explain to your child that they need to stay in bed, so if they get out again, the door will be shut. I really struggled when my daughter was young and wouldn t go to sleep. It took me a long time to accept that it was OK for her to stay in her bed and not go to sleep. The key was that as long as she was in bed, it was okay. You can t make a child sleep and if a child doesn t sleep, then maybe they don t need it! If you have a child who is deter- mined to sleep in your bed, then the same routine applies. Unless it is your choice, your child needs to go to sleep in their own bed. If they come into you during the night and climb into bed with you, as soon as you realise and hear them, you need to get up and take them by the hand and put them back in their own bed. Putting this into action is often really difficult so it is helpful to have some support. It is easy if you are on your own (and I hear it all the time) to just give in but the more you give in the more difficult it will be to bring about change. Changes aren t going to happen overnight and will possibly take a few weeks before a new habit is formed, so be consistent, patient and hang in there. Good luck -- sleep is so import- ant for children and often for your own sanity as well. Encouraging good bedtime habits from an early age makes for an easier life.
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