Nelson Leader : March 21st 2013
22 THE NELSON LEADER, MARCH 21, 2013 PARENTING Honour your loved ones in print and online... Celebrate and honour the legacy of your loved one s life and inspire family and friends to do the same. Death Notices published in the Nelson Mail are now available on our website. is service allows people, living outside the region or overseas, to view your notice. An online guestbook is also attached to your online death notice which gives friends and family members the opportunity to share thoughts, feelings and o er condolences. ese memories will help preser ve your loved one s story and create a sense of community while o ering comfort during a di cult time. For more information on the Nelson Mail death notices online service contact: Nelson Mail on (03) 548 0119 or 0800 800 515 or classi email@example.com or your Funeral Director can answer any questions you may have on the Nelson Mail death notices online service. www.nelsonmail.co.nz/deathnotices 190 Trafalgar Street, Nelson 7010, Nelson office 539 0210 PO Box 1673 203 Queen Street, Richmond 7020, Richmond office 544 2357 PO Box 3401 Fax 03 539 0215 i www.hflaw.co.nz i firstname.lastname@example.org Hamish.Fletcher Lawyers We have the region covered if you're buying or selling your property. Our team offers a mix of youth and experience plus a firm commitment to ensure your conveyancing needs are met. Jane Russell Legal Executive Nelson cell 0211 547 716 e-mail email@example.com Maurice Higgs Land Specialist Nelson cell 0274 476 819 e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org Pam Coltman Senior Legal Executive Richmond cell 0212 641 143 e-mail email@example.com Conveyancing Team 5189305AA Parenting with Brenda Holdaway Topayornotto pay? Let's talk pocket money The topic of pocket money is often a discussion I get into with parents and it seems to create lots of interest. The challenge is if we pay children for doing chores, will they learn to only do chores if they are going to get paid? I know of many families where they have done this and now are finding it quite difficult to undo. It is very easy as parents to say: If you make your bed every day and help with the dishes you will get pocket money each week. Then if these jobs don t happen, the child doesn t get any pocket money, so the child learns very quickly that they are getting paid for doing those chores. My opinion on that is that those are chores that every child should be doing regard- less of money. They are lifelong skills that all children need to learn. As a valued member of the family we all help out with daily chores around the house, that is just what happens in households. When it comes to pocket money the system I talk to parents about is to give pocket money to children to teach responsibility around money. The payment is for them as a valued member of the family and everyone in the family has a little money. As part of the family, everyone has to do chores to help the household operate effectively, therefore there is no payment for completing house- hold jobs. When children get the money, they then learn skills around managing it, and it is up to us as parents to teach them how to look after it and spend it wisely. Children will often go through a phase of wanting to spend it when- ever they get it, which seems quite normal, but over a period of time, learn that if they want something they need to save for it themselves. Some families set up systems where they divide the pocket money up each week, so a third goes into the bank or money box, a third goes to a charity and the remaining money can be spent by the child on what- ever they like. Indeed this teaches children not only the importance of saving, but also to give money to the less fortunate. When children start getting a bit older, then they can start doing extra chores, which aren t everyday or weekly tasks, which may earn money. A common one is cleaning the car, and this would be worth a set value. By doing it this way children then start learning about being paid for doing jobs and can make those deci- sions for themselves as to whether they want to earn money or not; good skill development for later in life. As a parent you need to make sure that you are realistic in your expec- tations, and consider how much the job is actually worth. I have heard wonderful stories about young adults taking on jobs and being very disil- lusioned about how much they are earning as they can earn more doing jobs around home. Twenty dollars for a half hour job of washing the car is not realistic! Also make sure there are things that they want that will motivate them to save for them themselves. Good luck and remember to not start things up with too much money initially as you have many years ahead of you.
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