Nelson Leader : February 14th 2013
28 THE NELSON LEADER, FEBRUARY 14, 2013 PARENTING Get your team together and take up the challenge! HURRY, entry numbers limited! The Nelson Mail Team Triathlon Challenge on March 2, 2013, is a chance for people of all abilities to try the sport of triathlon in a team environment. Join with friends, family or workmates in three-person teams and take part in this exciting, achievable event in the heart of Nelson. The course, in the Akersten Street/Marina area, will see each competitor complete a 300m swim, 8km bike and 3km run or walk before tagging the next team member. So pick your category and visit the website to register! Entries close February 28, 2013 or before, if race limit is reached. CATEGORIES (full category and prize details on website) Nelson Mail Business Category Shoe Clinic Mates Category Stewart Cycles School Category Wildside Travel Walkers Category www.teamtri.co.nz Every race entrant gets a FREE bag of race goodies and there’ll be heaps of great SPOT PRIZES. Prize pool in excess of $10,000! 5108762AA MCH0508 TV IS GOING DIGITAL ON 28 APRIL Call 0800 838 800 or visit www.goingdigital.co.nz for more information. www.citymotorcycles.co.nz City Motorcycles 27 Vanguard Street, Nelson CitMt l FOR BMW PARTS AND SERVICE AND MOTO GUZZI SALES, AND MOTO GUZZI SALES, PARTS AND SERVICE PARTS AND SERVICE 5102588AA The Ultimate Driving Machine Taking the terror out of the store Parenting Parenting with Brenda Holdaway ❝ Whenever your child does anything that is appropriate, behaves in the way you expect, you are going to give them lots of positives. Shopping with children is fun While I was pondering what to write about this week, a scene I had seen last week kept coming to mind, so I am assuming it was a sign and must be what I need to write about. The image that I keep seeing is that of a mother struggling with her toddler in the middle of a department store. The toddler has picked up a toy and the mother is trying to get it off him, as she is not prepared to buy the toy. There is a very loud scene and both mother and child are at their wits’ end. I didn’t linger long enough to see the end result but hopefully I have painted enough of a picture for people to reach their own con- clusions. I am sure this is a scene that many people would be able to relate to. Even the best of parents could have similar experiences so this script will benefit all. Taking our children shopping is often a stressful experience but one that is valuable for them, so I urge parents to ensure they allow their children this valuable learn- ing experience. Below are a few ideas to support you to make it less stressful for you and more fun for your child. Prepare and Plan: You always know when you are going to go shopping, especially when you are going to more than one shop, or a supermarket. Talk to your children about what your expectations of their behaviour is and what is happen- ing. Let them know about and explain the rules. Tell them what you are looking for while you are shopping, what they can do to help and make sure that there is a reward for them at the end that they know about. The more you talk to your child about what is happening, the bet- ter informed they are and are more likely to understand your expectations. The other thing you need to make sure you do to pre- pare, is be prepared yourself. If you are going to be out during a snack or meal time, make sure you have some snacks with you, a nappy change and anything else you might need. Try not to be out during those times if you can help it, as that will support your child to stick to their daily routines as well. Have engaging activities for them – while you are out, make them a part of the shopping expedition by giving them jobs to do as well. It may be that they are in the buggy and they need to look for the place where you will find socks for instance. You can push them around and ask – can you see any socks here? For older children, when out clothing shopping, they can look for something in a particular colour, or when supermarket shopping, they have to find the Vegemite. There are many ways you can keep your children busy while you are out shopping, be creative and make it fun. Remember to reward them whenever they do behave appro- priately. Whenever your child does anything that is appropriate, behaves in the way you expect, you are going to give them lots of positives. The more positives they hear the more likely they are to con- tinue behaving in that way. If they do misbehave, then apply whatever appropriate con- sequences you can, and talk to them about behaving appropri- ately. Then if everything has gone well on your shopping expedition, make sure they get the agreed reward. If you decide to take this on board and follow the above steps then it may be necessary to write things down, to really prepare well. Once you have done it a few times it will get easier and writing it down won’t be necessary in the end, just a good list in your head of what you need to do. So the toddler in the buggy hav- ing a tantrum over wanting a toy will be easier to deal with now as maybe you haven’t gone near the toy section, or you have told your toddler right from the start that you are only looking and not buy- ing toys, or perhaps they aren’t tired and hungry so are happy to do as they are told. Good luck and have fun shop- ping.
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